This series of posts is here to tell you:
- Don't criticize or ridicule anyone, you never know where the future will land the two of you.
- Don't ever give in to people's criticism/comments. You have the ability to achieve the impossible.
Once upon a time...
There was a this boy who was much like any other boy of his age. Lets call him Vicky.
So Vicky was an average boy who loved playing Cricket, idolized Sachin Tendulkar, loved playing Video Games and enjoyed studies too. But he was under a lot of pressure. His family was not doing good financially so he was raised by his maternal aunts and maternal parents. Being the eldest he had been raised with the mind-set that he is going to be the one who has to set everything right.
He was studying in a town - neither a complete village nor a city. But it was a small town. The town did not have a school beyond 10th standard where medium of instruction was English. His parents were told by the relatives that he would have a better future if he studied 'Maths' in an English medium School.
He was lucky that his aunts were educated, though, how they managed to be educated in an era where girls were married off once they reach 18 (years of age), is a story for another time. And the important thing was - they genuinely cared for him. So once he had finished his 10th Standard, the aunts began searching for a good boarding school, for him to be able to continue his education.
Now, Vicky was academically considered brilliant not just by family but by teachers and even the neighbourhood. He has scored State Level Rank in 5th Standard (Board Exams), and District Rank in 8th and 10th Board Exams. Many thought that his brilliance will be wasted in a small town, and hence he must move out.
One of his aunts took Vicky to a friend/neighbour's house. The neighbor had two daughters. The eldest daughter was of the same age as that of Vicky. Like in all Indian families comparisons were obvious. The two daughters were considered much better than Vicky and his younger brother (more about him some other time).
So when the two families met, the neighbour told, that the eldest daughter had recently failed in an admission test for IIT-Coaching. Her mother with a clear disappointment on her face declared, "She is going to join AIEEE Coaching". The girls ultimately couldn't get a good rank in AIEEE either.
Vicky had never heard those words before - IIT and/or AIEEE. He was curious by nature. So the moment he and his aunt walked out he asked her - "Aunty, what's IIT? " To which the aunt replied, "My dear, its a very big exam. Its not in our reach. Its not our cup of tea." Vicky knew that our actually meant 'your'. Not only it was disappointing because she thought that he wasn't good enough but it was also disappointing since she didn't even bother to explain it. May be, she herself did not know about it properly, since she was from a biology background.
Vicky felt more curious and thought, "What kind of exam could it be? And Why should it be out of my reach?" I have been topper throughout my schooling career, so why does aunt say that its not in my reach? Can I not at least try?" He wanted to ask, but he kept quiet. He thought to himself, given the circumstances, I would clear that Exam someday.
[One needs to understand how un-aware, Vicky was. He did score district rank in 10th standard, but had never heard of IIT or AIEEE before. He was studying in a town after all. ]
Time passed, he somehow was able to go to a Metro City to continue his studies (of course with the help of his aunts). The institution he joined decided to partner with the leading coaching institute of the city, and started IIT-Coaching classes for its own bunch of students. A test was organized, and it was announced that students scoring top 50 ranks would be given free coaching for IIT-JEE.
Vicky appeared and got the free coaching. What he didn't know was the rank he got. So he was forced by his aunt to go and meet the principal to know the rank and at that moment he realized that he had, in fact, scored the 1st position in the entrance test. So much for the 'not within reach exam'! He did it in a much bigger city, with more competitors then he could have imagined.
However, during the coaching period, the same aunt, who had not found him good enough for IIT, declared that Vicky had to be an IITian! A complete U-Turn!!
By now, Vicky's mind had begun to revolt. It didn't want to work as per others' demand/command. Vicky decided he had better things in life to learn and explore, but had to continue his studies for IIT due to the immediate financial problems of his parents.
Vicky did clear IIT but not with a very good rank. He decided to join another institute which was also a premiere institute and ranked 13th best engineering institute of its time in India by many ranking sources. It still is one of the best and still ranks 13th.
There were still financial issues. His aunts supported the fee for the first two years and would have continued to do so. However, they were very demanding and Vicky did not want to live someone else's life. He had realized by now, that he had only one life and one chance to live it. At the end of second year, he decided to take educational loan to complete his studies, and that was when he also bought a laptop. He had taken up 'Information Technology' as his branch, though he had very little exposure to computers before joining that Engineering Institution.
On 7th November 2013, Vicky paid off his education loan.
But then the miracle happened. It was like destiny was already fixed. After 4 years of Engineering, Vicky was able to join a Research Organization which is one of the most Successful and admired organizations in the World today. His hard work and leadership qualities (hard work matters more than skill and talent) and his creative approach earned him a double promotion within 9 months of joining the Organization.
Vicky, within 1 and half year of graduating, was in IIT Madras leading the Recruitment team for hiring on Day1! Not only that, today he has recruited from a total of 6 IITs, and about 18 NITs, and many other premiere institutes including his own college. and traveled across 23 Indian States in a career whose span is less than 3 years.
Many NITs and Central/State Universities have invited him as Guest Speaker / Guest of Honour / Honorary Speaker / Chief Guest on different events for Technical/HR/Motivational Training Sessions.
He still remembers the moment when he was told that 'He wasn't good enough to be an IITian'. He often uses this story in the Motivation Workshops that he conducts in Engineering Institutes, today.
You also need to understand thay the identity of Vicky is not important. There are hundreds of thousands of Vicky in this world. There is a Vicky inside everyone of us. That's the part in us which refuses to give up, which will not be dominated by anyone else. The story and it's learnings are more important than the person in the story.
And I can tell you this - If he could pull that off, anyone can. You can. It doesn't matter what your wildest possible dreams are, how ridiculous and un-achievable they sound you can achieve them. It doesn't matter if you know the path or not, just trust in yourself and trust in God. You can and you will achieve your dream.*
*Terms and conditions apply
Basically, your aim/dream should not be about hurting people. If its about hurting others, even for revenge, I don't think you will succeed.
Moral of the story: It does not matter how the story begins. What really matters is the Journey and how it ends! (from Kunfu-Panda2)