Saturday, March 8, 2014

Women's Day Special - You're beautiful just the way you are. You don't need Facebook likes to prove it.

First of all, to all my female readers - A very Happy International Women's Day.

This post is a general post and is not about any individual. This post is based on the various observations I have had, and the experience I have in dealing and judging people as HR Recruiter.

I would like to make it very clear from the beginning that I have no intentions of hurting anyone, and I would be presenting straight forward facts.

Let's just say that I have been surrounded by lovely women - My mother, my maternal grandmother and my 3 maternal aunts. I doubt I would see someone more beautiful than them. No, they are not actresses or models, they are just beautiful the way they are.

My mother was married off when she was 18. She was raising two sons by the time she was 20. I don't feel matured enough to handle one kid when I have had the one of the best education I could get and I am 25 years old (well, closer to 26 now :P).

My maternal aunts - what to say about them?! They fought the family and the society hard, because they wanted to study.

I remember, very well, I used to run to call for hand-pulled rickshaw for them so that they could sneak from the back door to catch a train to go back to their college. At the time my maternal grandfather didn't want them to study away from home (one studied in Agricultural University of Solan, the best in Asia and the other did her course in CDAC Bangalore in 1998).Today they are gold medalists, professors, seniors researchers in reputed organizations etc.

Not only did they build their careers, they built my career and my brother's too. And that's the main reason for me being selflessly trying to help others and even strangers build careers of their own, through my Guest Lectures, sessions and my blog articles. Its their [my aunts'] Success that continues. Its their values and knowledge that flows through me. I wouldn't be anything without them!

Yes they too cared for their looks, just like everyone else does. But they took more care of their career, their knowledge and their personality.

Today I am saddened by the number of senseless Facebook posts I get in my feeds - its all about stunning pics. Everyone is trying to be a model or something. Snaps of self using mobile-camera infront of mirrors are pretty common. [agree that boys do the same too, but atleast they update some status about politics, cricket and latest tech]

Though I do understand the human desire to look good (or gorgeous in this case), I also understand that basic cause behind it. Its about Human Psychology - 'The need to feel important' - 'The need to feel that our existence has a purpose'.

I too, have uploaded pics, and lets be clear, there is nothing wrong with that and I am not at all against it. However, the purpose in life is not to just get likes on Facebook Profile/Cover pics. I have also seen girls who feel that they are not as gorgeous as the girls in their class so they keep uploading pics of celebrities as profile/cover pics.

Let's just be clear about one thing, I am sure you all will agree -  yes we are attracted to beauty; and to be frank, yes boys/males become crazy for girls with drop-dead looks. However, that is just infatuation and temporary (most times).

The real beauty lies in the character, it lies in the intelligence, it lies in the brilliance, it lies in the culture. Do you think I am saying something wrong?

Think of your best friends. Are they the most beautiful or awesome looking people in your friend circle? Or are they the people with the best hearts you have ever known? Think about it, and be honest with yourself.

So this Women's Day, I would like to salute the beautiful Women in my life and around the globe a  very happy Women's Day - and yeah, my definition of beautiful is not limited to "Facial/physical gorgeousness". You need to remember - You're beautiful, just the way you're.

I also have a request - Instead of posting just pics, post some intelligent gyaan, some thoughts on current affairs, some article on latest technology, and see the difference. 

Remember the ancient Sanskrit Shloka - "Satyam Shivam Sundaram" [ Beauty lies in Truth; beauty is Divine.]

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